The energies of the Caregiver relate to caring for individuals and creating safety for others in order to help them grow and evolve. The Caregiver creates communion by helping others to feel that they are loved, esteemed and cared for, and by encouraging positive relationships between people.
The myth of the Caregiver speaks its healing abilities by its natural propensity towards giving. It is about knowing that we are cared for and loved by the universe, and secondly about taking our responsibility towards universal values grounded in love and generosity. In fact, it represents the archetype that structures the inner self, which allows the evolutionary transition from the needs of the Self to the call of the Spirit. We know who we are and what we want but our compassion is even greater than our own interest.
Love is stronger than survival instinct. In generosity we find greater abundance and freedom for all.
The Caregiver’s shadow is to get lost in the needs of others. In fact, it can bring up a neurotic tendency to respond to the needs of others even when no one has asked for help, thus covering the Orphan within and his sense of abandonment. It could eventually create an unstable loop between the emotion of competing (shadow Warrior) and “loving” (shadow Caregiver).
In fact, if our care for others is a way of avoiding loneliness and our hunger for relationship, the risk to suffocate others is great.
How many men and women bring their emotional needs into relationship by demanding that the other fill their void? We look to the partner as a remedy for our perceived emotional struggles, but at the same time we can feel threatened by intimacy and any hint of a stable relationship. I want to keep my freedom but at the same time I expect you to always be there for me, waiting for me.
The Suffering Martyr is another shadow of the Caregiver, anyone who has the impression of always giving to others and never receiving anything in return. As a point, the Martyr has difficulty receiving and low self-esteem. Many may feel victimised by this Martyr, who evokes a sense of guilt for having benefited from a sacrifice never actually required.
The reality is that each of us has a child within ourselves. Until we develop our Caregiver we will always depend on others for the nourishment and care of the child within us. The Caregiver expresses unconditional affection towards the child. A healthy sense of self-care.
However, the parent does not just comfort; they also guide and help the child to recognise and develop their skills and abilities. If our Warrior is not healthy and our Caregiver is not integrated, they will wage war, and by insisting on our inadequacies we become the enemy of ourselves and the savior of ourselves. A loop.
The Caregiver tells us that we must take care of our newborn at different levels: there is our newborn who wants to be embraced and consoled, the child who asks to be heard and supported through the awareness of his emotions and thoughts; the 12-year-old who requires openness on an alternative way of thinking; the 16-year-old who needs to know that we still trust his ability to handle the situation.
In the end the Caregiver can start by taking care of himself and then learn to go beyond. As he becomes more mature he will be able to live in the community. Hence the ability to think globally and act in the here and now for the Care of the Planet.
This means care and interest in humanity. The Innocent, the Orphan, the Warrior and the Caregiver help us find our identity. The lesson of the latter is to give fully but also to develop the superior conscience necessary to recognise its limitations and priorities.
The Caregiver will now become a positive martyr, ready to give his life for love for others.
The Warrior calls us to be courageous, strong with the capability to keep walking within the space of our own integrity.
In certain terms it calls us to claim our personal power by re-establishing our place in the world in order to make this planet a better place.
It requires our capability to identify which aspects of our lives are in alignment with us or not and to try with discipline and small daily actions to change.
The Warrior is responsible for our actions. For the doing, for the mission that is expressed in making daily action from a good awareness of one's identity, of one's essence. At this point the Warrior can protect boundaries by carrying out courage and discipline starting from a clear “I am”.
Finally, the Warrior defends and helps others, treats others as he would like to be treated: Respect.
The Warrior emphasizes that evil, injustice, and dishonesty exist. If we are conscious and skilled enough, if we have enough courage and discipline to stand and if we allow ourselves to receive support, those realities can be changed. In this broader sense, we are not only responsible for ourselves but also for others, it is our duty to defend the weak.
The Warrior's Shadow lies in relying unconsciously on the hero/perpetrator/victim cycle, done in response to the need to feel like a “warrior”. The downside of all this is the belief that it's not okay to just be human. We have to prove that we are better than others. The Warrior wants to be the best by creating dynamics of inferiority and superiority, domination and submission, success and failure.
We can use our power to improve the world or gain control over others. The problem many times lies in the fact that so many Warriors are not as such, but essentially Orphans who appease their sense of lack of power by trying to outclass or control others. Pseudo-Warriors.
The Warrior and the Caregiver (next archetype) are therefore the adult archetypes to be developed and integrated into consciousness. Without at least one of them, someone can be left in an infantile stage of psychic evolution.
The Warrior who is integrated the healthy and an evolved Innocent within himself does not fall into the trap of fighting for anything, but only for what is really close to his heart.
If he has a good relationship with his Orphan, he will not always be so hard and demanding with himself and others.
If the Innocent and Orphan are not integrated, the Warrior will always be projected towards his own survival. He will be a Warrior who will tend to project and fuel conflicts with anger, or a Warrior in constant escape for his inability to deal with conflicts.
In the end the Warrior helps us find a sense of individuality, without a healthy Warrior it will be difficult to find a sense of identity. The Warrior is the one who minds borders and protects the first blossoming of the Inner Self. The Warrior will make dreams through discipline, the warrior is also the one who decides to retire for a while to lick his wounds, to heal, and return to the world stronger than before.
In this sense the Warrior is self-discipline, control of one's impulses and feelings, and courage. The courage to face inner demons, an attitude that will allow us to face circumstances with intelligence, wisdom and patience.
In fact, the most skilled Warriors are those who in today's society are not even recognised as “warriors”; at the highest levels in fact victory is achieved without overpowering others, especially without the humiliation of anyone.
Peace, Peace, Peace.
In conclusion, the Warrior knows that we can save the world from destruction, and beyond that build an enlightened society. To do this we must not only have courage but also the Compassion of the Caregiver.